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Lessons Learned!

  • Posted: 16/06/2016
  • Author: Thomas Kuzma
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Hey guys, welcome back to Aspire! I have been very chill lately, playing Pokémon games and drawing. I guess I should say as I write this I celebrate my 25th birthday. This blog I have decided will be a summation of the biggest things I’ve learnt for the past 25 years and 45 minutes. I know I’m not some old geezer but I have a far few lessons from the experiences I have had. So, you guys are going to get 5 random short stories from me today, all with a particular lesson.

           5.Don’t try and force things

In year five I had an awesome teacher by the name of Mr Hunt. The man loved movies and Star Wars; he is one of my top 3 favourite teachers of all time. Anyway, one day there was class photos (yes it’s going to be one of those stories) and I wanted to have the best smile out of the grade.

 I knew there was this one kid from a more well to do family, to avoid any legal arguments let’s call him Archibald. Archibald was this blonde kid who was the most popular and charming kid in the grade, you knew most of his friends had only the brownest of noses. He had this wicked smile, where he would show all his annoying white teeth, which when compared to the awkward smiles that the other kids had, would stand out.

So I said to myself, you know what? I’m going to make a smile, I am going to make the biggest smile there ever was. The photos came out, and this is what I looked like…

Lesson learnt; don’t force something that won’t happen, be yourself, that’s all you need to be. Well, a socially acceptable version of yourself haha.

          4. Teamwork is essential in all areas of life

Like a well-built computer with all its components working together, a good team thrives on its team members working in harmony. But teamwork doesn’t end on the playground or the office, there’s teamwork in all fields of life.

In primary school I was a part of one of those after school soccer teams. I had to make dad proud using a ball and my feet you know? Now my dad did his very best not to let his emotions get the best of him, he treated me like any other kid on the team. The problem was I didn’t enjoy soccer; I liked Crash Bandicoot and Spyro the Dragon.

Don’t get me wrong, I had an ecstatic amount of energy, the problem was when I played soccer,  I treated it like I was playing a video game. Sadly the other kids had no idea what I was doing. Because of that I was put in the position of Full Back. As an adult I realise that my hand-eye coordination skills and focus on the game wasn’t as great as the other team members. I was in the best position that I could be and because I helped protect the team’s side of the field, we ended up winning a great deal of matches. At the end of the year we ended up winning some pretty awesome trophies too! 

It did kinda suck when people asked me how many goals I got and I had to tell them that I hadn’t kicked any. I remember the first time I kicked a goal was in year five, in my last year of playing soccer. I tried my best, and kicked it as hard as I could, to which the ball lazily rolled into the far left side of the goal. I was freaking excited. That goal was two years after I stopped quoting video games in my matches, so I guess something worked!

         3. Knowing when to let go

I don’t know where to start with this one; you know it is funny because I don’t where to let it go in the end! Again to keep the person private I’ll use a fake name, so let’s call her Helga.

Helga and I had an interesting friendship, I know I made my mistakes here and there, but I tried my best to be a good friend. But last year things seemed to get darker. She became more frustrated with anything I said, from “What have you been up to?” to “Playing any games lately?” until one joke was “too much” and she abused the hell out of me.

It was at that stage that I told the Helga that I wasn’t going to take it anymore and I decided to end the friendship. See the problem I faced there was that I didn’t know where to end the friendship. I wanted so hard to maintain the friendship but I realise in the end that I need to think about my own wellbeing, not what some random person thinks of me.

        2. Fashion, it’s good to know what to wear, and when.

Okay, move over drama; let’s bring in another funny story! They say you should have the right clothes for the right occasion. As the sayings go:

If you are going to any kinds of dinners, dress smart-casual, no slippers.

If the storm clouds are a-brewing, it’s a jumper you should be a viewing!

 If you’re going to a pool party, pack swimmers unless you’re forty.

Don’t wear a blazer, if you’re a little hellraiser! 

Anyway, my fourth story comes to you from Tropfest 2009. I had no idea when this fantastic event began, so I decided to go there in time to get a good spot. I’m not saying I got there early, but I arrived to the park in the morning. I mean sure I got a good spot to sit down but I had almost six hours to wait in the sun. Thank God for sunblock, but I didn’t have a water bottle.

Strike 1

I was lying in the middle of giant field with no shade…

Strike 2

And the most important thing (relating back to the lesson) was, I had black jeans, black pants and shirt on top of those.

Strike 3

I was swimming in my own sweat, it was bad. I couldn’t leave my spot because if I did I would lose it and my friends weren’t coming for hours! I did manage to escape when I realised no one would be taking my spot after an hour or two. But this is a very important lesson for you guys going to any sort of festivals. DRESS APPROPRIATELY!

  1. Be true to yourself, be open and take action!

Okay so I had something else for this one, but I gave a talk the day after my birthday that really changed certain things for me. I looked back on everything, every job I had, every ruined relationship, every awesome friendship and every “ultimate” moment and I realised something. I only got this far by being true to myself.

Now before I continue there are obvious exceptions to this rule, there are things in life that you shouldn’t do because they are just unwise. But to a moderate level I follow this rule.

Something that I have learned from my time on this planet is that even though we evolve, grow as people and develop the world around us, there will always be anger, hate and discrimination. Whether it has to do with politics, class, religion, video games, movies, foods or anything, people will always have a good or bad opinion on things; heck even opinions are hated today.

I was going to use Kung Fu Panda, but I think this one works better together. I recently watched the movie Chef; a film where Carl Casper, a renowned chef feels stale, being the head chef in a kitchen for a high class restaurant where he cannot be creative, having to deal with a “co-owner” that forces him to work the same menu week after week. He must also deal with the internet and everyone’s opinions after he has one bad review.

It’s not until he starts working for himself that he realises that he can truly find himself, not just in his work, but in his personal life and his son too. We live in a world where everyone is talking and not that many people are listening. It’s not until we stop talking and start communicating that we learn more about ourselves and the people around us.

I don’t really have anything left for this lesson, except something I learnt recently from Gene Cernan, the last man on the moon. When I saw him live, he told me one incredible thing. He said, “Don’t ever count yourself out. You’ll never know how good you are unless you try. Dream the impossible and go out and make it happen” 

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